Oct 272014
 

From time to time, I hope to bring you creative writing from men  inside the walls.  The following is prose from a long time 7th Stepper, Jack Ball, who chose not to have this posted anonymously.  It involves his recovery from drug addiction.

knowledgeI am a man who is 59 years old. My name is Jack and I am an addict. I have spent the last 26 years of my life inside a prison made of steel and stone, before that I lived in a prison I carried in my mind. My low self esteem was beaten into me by the hard angry fists of my grandfather. You cant bury something awful inside yourself and then pretend its not there while you fight another war, that makes you break all of your own rules. Maybe I am simply talking about honor, I could not define it in myself, but I recognized it when I saw it in others. I was convinced that as a virtue it had little to do with being reasonable, I knew that absolutely it was as dishonorable for a man to allow himself to be used, as it was for him to use others. I have moments of memory where I slip back into an era that would always be mine, whether I wanted it or not. Where I lived a life of" NOT ENOUGH "… not good enough, not fast enough, not quiet enough, every statement punctuated with violence, I can feel myself begin to sink into a dark recess of pain and grief that will not cauterize with time. I can feel the caution lights start to flash in my head, then I know by the heated energy that rushes through my stomach and surges through my chest and rips open the sealed up places in my brain that I had forgotten or wanted to believe never existed. The hyena will have its way, just as the caution light is locked on red, you cant even have the pleasure of loathing yourself, because the metamorphosis to which you’ve committed yourself is now the only self you have. Everyone has a need for their past, sometimes it pulls harder on you than your future. I have liked the past better than the present or even the hope of the future. There have been times when I have fallen and betrayed my future with my past. The past is like a rodent that eats its way inch by inch through entrails and chews at your liver and stomach, severs tendons from organs until finally when you are alone in the dark it sits gorged and sleek inside your head, its eyes resting, its wet muzzle like a kiss, a promise whispered in the air. I have found in the rooms of recovery, a place of redemption, and a road to a bright future where hope and peace lay, a chance to be part of my own life instead of being ran over by it. There is no trap so deadly as the one we set for ourselves.

I’d like to add one more thing.  Jack recently learned that he will be a free man in less than one year.  Congratulations Jack.  I am confident that you have learned how to make it as a productive, law abiding citizen.

Oct 272014
 

I’m sorry there has been so little activity here in recent months.  Because we are a small organization, personal health issues have been problematic.  In addition, we are reorganizing our Board of Directors, and will have announcements on that shortly.  I hope that from this point forward, I’ll have more regular articles for you.

Apr 142011
 

Homecoming CoDA

Sponsored by
7th Step Foundation – Pac NW Chapter

Homecoming CoDA is for adults who are finding their way home from prison, from the service, from distant places, from unhealthy relationships, from anywhere. It is also for any adult who wants to learn healthy relationships. All are welcome.


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Facilitators: Sandi and Tom
Host: Rivergate Community Church
Location: 4737 N Lombard St, Portland, OR 97203
When: Every Friday
Time: 7:00 pm
Contact info: Sandi (503) 245-4146 or Tom (503) 680-9809

The church sits well back on the lot and is hard to see.  From Lombard St, turn north on Olin Ave (one block west of Huron and one block east of Stockton.)

Here are directions by bus from Pioneer Square, downtown.
    • Start at Pioneer Courthouse Square in Portland
    • Walk northeast from Pioneer Courthouse Square (SW 6th Ave & SW Morrison St) to SW 6th & Washington
    • 6:24pm Board 35 Greeley to University of Portland
    • 6:44pm Get off at N Lombard & Peninsular
    • 6:54pm Board 75 Lombard to St. Johns
    • 6:58pm Get off at N Lombard & Huron
    • Walk west to 4737 N Lombard St.
See you there!
Dec 182010
 

I received the following testimonial from Pat Burns, a prisoner at Oregon State Penitentiary, and a member of the 7th Step Club there.

Testimonial by: Patrick Burns, OSP 7th Step Foundation Member

OSPI would like to share my experience with 7th Step in the hopes that others who may find themselves in a similar position can benefit from what the club and its members have to offer. For those of us who are ready to change the reward is well worth the effort.

I first heard of 7th Step when I was in my 20’s and read “My Shadow Ran Fast”, the book by Bill Sands that detailed his time in prison and how he came to see that there was a better way to go than the one he had chosen. Mr. Sands was the founder of 7th Step and his story is an inspiration to all who know it.

At the age of 43 I was sentenced to 70 months for a bank robbery. I also had a few DUII’s on my record, so it should have been obvious to me that the choices I had been making weren’t working out too well for me. Should have been, but wasn’t. My stints in county jails had not provided the wake-up call I needed. Hearing the judge say 70 months was the start of my awakening to say the least. At first I was still upset and not wanting to place the blame where it belonged, which was squarely on my shoulders. Instead I blamed my attorney, the judge, being laid off from work, etc. It’s always easier to point our fingers at others than to face ourselves, isn’t it?

As I settled into my sentence an interesting thing began to happen. I was no longer upset at the others that I had blamed for my troubles, but began to realize that in many ways this prison time was the best thing that could have happened to me. I began to look at my life, not from the perspective of how I had been wronged, but in how I had wronged the people in my life. This was the beginning of the great calm that has come to settle over me.

When I arrived at OSP after having been accepted into the Automotive Technology program, I saw the list of clubs available and noticed that 7th Step was one of them. I signed up right away and was welcomed into the club. I also joined Toastmasters, so now I was involved in two clubs that encouraged growth and where I could share the lessons that I was learning. As part of that growth the third of the 7 steps is my favorite: “Evaluating ourselves by taking an honest self-appraisal, we examined both our strengths and our weaknesses.” And a good way to start that self-appraisal is to ask ourselves “Why are we here?” And I don’t mean the crime you committed. That’s what we were sentenced for, it’s not why we are here.

We are here because of choices. Now granted, in a few cases it was one choice, made in a bad or trying situation. But for most of us, it started with one bad choice and went from there. The first time we decided to skip school, or work, to get high. The first time we cheated on a lover. The first time we took something that wasn’t ours. The first time we made a choice that we knew wasn’t right. That’s when we started chipping away at our moral foundation.

Because after that first one, it got a little easier each time to ignore the voice in our soul, the one that tells us “this is wrong.” But try as we might to ignore that voice, it wouldn’t go away. So that led a lot of us to medicate our guilt away with drugs or alcohol. Being drunk or stoned or high not only shut the voice up but also made it a lot easier to make more choices that weren’t right. Then the guilt hits and the cycle starts again. If only that voice would go away! And that is the answer to “why are we here?”

Now that we know that, we can start to work on that honest self- appraisal that I feel is the key to our growth. Acknowledge the choices and mistakes that have been made, and wherever possible, make amends. Realize that you and you alone are responsible for your choices, and take strength in the power that realization gives to you. Take steps to prevent your weaknesses from controlling your actions, and seek help with that through the people that you know you can count on, your 7th Step brothers and sisters being an excellent place to start.

Is this going to be easy? No. It takes constant effort to do the right thing. It takes courage to have real principles, especially when you are surrounded by those who will tell you that it’s not cool, or you’re not being tough. But those of us that are working on doing the right thing know how tough it is. So I am asking for all of us to start doing the right thing today, follow your steps and answer the question “why am I here?”

It’s hard to comment in the face of the raw courage Pat has had to make effort to change and to share it unselfishly with others.  I know what he went through, because my experience was similar in making the move from denial and blaming others to accountability.  People like Pat is the reason that we, on the outside, are proud to assist them in their steps to freedom.

Nov 182010
 

I’m sorry to announce that due to schedule conflicts and Holiday events, Homecoming CoDA will not meet again until Friday, December 10.  We shall post a meeting announcement for that meeting.

Nov 042010
 

FYI, 7th Step is starting a CoDA group.  Here’s an email from Sandi, with the details.

Hi Friends,

We are happy to say that 7th Step has found a location for a Codependents Anonymous group for people in transition.  We’re starting out with an emphasis on "our guys" (former prisoners)…but anyone is welcome, including returning soldiers, who I think have a lot of the same issues when it comes to transition and the need for a support group.  We are calling the group "Homecoming" or "Coming Home", I don’t think we decided which one.  Tom Seving and I will get this group off the ground this Friday at 7:00pm in North Portland at the Rivergate Community Church, 4737 N. Lombard.  It’s about a half mile past Chautauqua, the street where Columbia Park starts, going west toward St. Johns.  It looks like Bus 75 on Lombard would get you there.

The 7th Step Board has long dreamed of forming this group, and we’ve gotten approval to hold it inside the walls, but now with [Oregon’s] budget concerns, we are on hold at OSP.  But we can do it in Portland, so please let anyone know who you think might like to check it out.  We know there is a need for this kind of support, and I don’t think I know anyone who isn’t codependent, so help us get the word out for a really good opportunity for personal growth and support.  Hope to see you there!  Call me if questions… [emphasis added]

Thanks,

Sandi Meyer

Here are directions by bus from Pioneer Square, downtown.

    • Start at Pioneer Courthouse Square in Portland
    • Walk northeast from Pioneer Courthouse Square (SW 6th Ave & SW Morrison St) to SW 6th & Washington
    • 6:24pm Board 35 Greeley to University of Portland
      6:44pm Get off at N Lombard & Peninsular
    • 6:54pm Board 75 Lombard to St. Johns
      6:58pm Get off at N Lombard & Huron
    • Walk west to 4737 N Lombard St

And here is a map to the location.

This group is for adults (18+) who wish develop healthy relationships.  For more information, email us.  See you there.

May 242010
 

The 7th Step Club inside Oregon Stare Penitentiary does many fine things, both for other prisoners and for the outside community.  Last week they had a rare treat.

oregon Talk about a tough audience: The first guy I talked to at the opera last week had robbed and killed a man with a baseball bat.

The next guy I met had murdered both his parents.

They were among about 120 inmates at the Oregon State Penitentiary in Salem who were given an opportunity to watch a performance Wednesday night of excerpts from Mozart’s “Magic Flute” put on by students in the University of Oregon School of Music opera program.

It was the first time, as near as anyone could recall, that opera had ever been performed at the state prison, which has operated at its current location since 1866.

Opera, with its exquisitely over-the-top fantasies of death, power, jealousy, unending love and ultimate destruction, turns out to make a perfect foil for men who lost their way, long ago, to the real-life seductions of drugs, alcohol, murder, rape and robbery.

When the music began, the prisoners, who ranged from barely 21 to stooped, graying and wrinkled, sat up straight, watched and listened — hard — to the magnificent music.

The unusual performance was part of an outreach program devised by Nicholas Isher­wood, an opera baritone who runs the program at the UO.

“We take vocal music out to people who can’t make it to the opera,” Isherwood explained to the inmates, who sat primly at long tables in the prison’s old dining room. Each man had an enormous cinnamon roll, fresh from the prison bakery, and milk in a paper carton at his place.

The performers — seven student singers and a keyboardist, with Isherwood to narrate — sang from an informal stage whose only backdrop was a bank of pay telephones and a sign warning in English and Spanish that conversations may be recorded.

“You are our most important audience of the year,” Isherwood told the men. “If there is anyone who would have a really hard time getting to the opera … .”

The audience cheered.

The prisoners were members of the Seventh Step Club, a self-help group that is one of 13 inmate organizations at the prison, which houses about 2,000 men in all.

“This is the first time we’ve had opera,” club president Lee Warren said. “They’re very excited. When we were out running amok and getting in trouble, what were we doing? Drinking! Now we are making changes in our lives. I’m trying to fill that gap with positive stuff.”…

Inserted from <Eugene Register Guard>

7th Step Foundation, PNC (the group that operates this website) partners with 7th Step Club in OSP.  We attend their meetings behind the walls regularly and provide friendship and guidance upon their release.

I do wish that the reporter had concentrated more on the positive things these guys are doing instead of the sensationalism of their offenses.

Thank you very much, Mr. Isherwood and U of O students.